CDH and I celebrated our six-month wedding anniversary on friday. He surprised me at 6am with another Pandora bead for my beautiful black necklace – this one has little orange stones and kind of looks like a Cthulhu head. I cooked him a lovely dinner of lamb and honey-roasted veges and made chocolate-chip biscuits and gave him lots of cuddles.
I figured now would be a good time to indulge y’all with some pithy observations about our first six months of marriage.
1. Nothing Changes
Sorry to burst your bubble, if you thought this was the case. Post marriage sex is the same as pre marriage sex (ie: great). Post marriage cuddles are the same as pre marriage cuddles. I can’t suddenly sing in tune or cook perfect rice or drive to work by myself. CDH hasn’t traded in his drumkit for a harmonica like I asked him to do TWO YEARS ago (after the seventh trip up the stairs carrying another bass drum).
2. Marriage is not hard.
‘Marriage is hard work’ I hear from numerous blogs, books and advice columns. Damn, I pity all those people, slaving away at their spousal happiness, while CDH and I singalong to Hammerfall in the car. Or maybe we’re just lucky. Marriage to CDH = a piece of piss.
Cold Hands Apparently do not Equal Wuv
I crawled into bed last night to get some CDH warmth. My cold hands snaked around his back and he squealed and squirmed away, took all the blankets and lay quivvering on the floor in a pool of ridiculous cuteness. “Cold hands does not equal wuv” he says, as he grudgingly offers me a miniscule corner of the blanket.
Money is the Root of All Marital Disagreements
So far, all our “small” disagreements (not arguements) have been over money. I am a savey-McSaves alot – I HATE spending money unless it’s on doing something fun. CDH LOVES shopping and spending on ANYTHING, esp stuff we don’t need. We disagree, we agree to disagree, we have wuv and snuggles and giggle at our silliness. It all works out ok in the end.
Do you have any more marital advice to share? I know all my readers are absolute fonts of wisdom – don’t be shy! I want to know 
9:47 am on May 4th, 2009
You are so lucky that you guys NEVER argue! Never met a couple that didn’t, so congratulations.
I think I’d have to disagree with you on a couple points though from MY experience being married for 3 years. For us, so much DID change when we got married! Our relationship went from being high school/ rock n roll, to grown up!
We definitely do argue as a couple, but now we have this feeling like its ok, no one is going anywhere and we WILL work this out as we are in this for life and we are committed to one another. For us it definitely has its moments of being frustrating and being a lot of work. I do often have to remind myself to be mature and to let certain things go, choose my battles so to speak.
We also have now an 11 month old baby, which has been an amazing journey through pregnancy and new parenthood, and a complete 180 in lifestyle change, but we have managed to morph together as a couple as we always have since our teenage love affair began 7 years ago.
Any advice I have would be to try to remember why you choose this person, not just at the beginning of the relation ship, but last year, last week, and today. I know it seems a bit obvious but truly try and respect who they are and don’t try and change them! We got together so young, during a time of self discovery and complete change, and I think thats what has got us to here, complete respect for who one another is, and for our ever changing selves.