Dear Wedding Skulls
We have a real dilhema here! Our wedding is in a local pub, and the catering staff have been great so far, coming up with meal solutions for the gluten-free and vegetarian guests. But we have two vegan guests, and … well, the cooks are real ‘meat and potatoes’ fellas, and they don’t seem to get vegan. What do we do?
Ah, those wacky vegans. Always messing up the best-laid plans.
(I’m kidding, btw. Some of my close friends are vegan and I totally admire them. And they cook awesome food! Vegan chocolate cake ftw!)
Vegans are pretty used to going hungry at weddings. Not because no one cares about them (although I suppose that is a possibility) but with all the stress and hassles and running around before a wedding, remembering to check the caterer has a specific ‘vegan’ meal prepared often falls by the wayside.
And when you DO remember the special vegan dish, and the chef cooks a special vegan dish, the wait staff aren’t told about it, and your vegan guest gets served the meat-encrusted platter, and goes hungry anyway.
OR your chef and your wait staff are told about the vegan, but the chef doesn’t understand what vegan food is, and your vegan ends up with a meat-or-animal-product infested platter, and goes hungry anyway.
Poor vegan 
I would bring your chef a short (one page long) description of what a vegan is – in writing, so he can read up on vegans and not rely on your rushed verbal description. I would also find him a couple of vegan recipes, just so he can see the kind of thing vegans eat as a meal (to avoid having your vegan served a plate of boiled cabbage (this happened to one of my vegan friends at a pub once).
Alternatively, you could order in takeout from a popular vegan restuarant. Just make sure it’s served on a plate, not a takeout container. Way to make the hippie feel stink 
Also, talk to your vegan friends before the event. Most vegans eat before going out anyway (too many years of paying $15 for boiled cabbage) so make sure they know – and are happy with – you preparing an extra meal for them.
Also, don’t forget the dessert. Vegan’s won’t be able to eat your awesome chocolate-encrusted velvet cake. Make sure they have something cow-free and tasty to treat themselves too. The same goes for chocolately wedding favors.
Good luck! It’s great to hear you taking pains to make your friends comfortable!